Follow, Affection


by pimpexposure

Question by terry m: 2nd Follow up: Affection v. sex?

Okay, lot of good responses. To fill in some details, my brother was very affectionate when they were first married, and continued this for a long time even after she decided that he wanted sex too much. She would use any excuse to put him off, and eventually would only have sex if she was drunk enough to pass out. My brother worked like a dog and did everything every marriage counselor suggested, but she insisted it wasn't important until the rest of the relationship was settled. My brother disagreed.

In my own relationship, I am usually very affectionate with my wife. But if she rejects me a few times in a row, a few of my "little nice things" start to slide. A few more times, and the laundry starts to pile up. More than a few weeks and it's stony silence. I am more than happy to reach out, but if my advances are rebuffed more than a few times, I take it personally. Luckily, she realizes this . . . and knows what she needs to do to fix it. Am I being unfair? Is she?




Best answer:

Answer by Dirty Martini
Unfair, shmair.

You both need to work at finding the time and the energy to be affectionate. But don't get caught up in the "counting" game. Your scores will never match up. ANd you are probably using different numeric systems anyway!

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